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How to Approach Women

How to Overlook Unnecessary Nervousness and Approach Women

Knowing how to approach women helps in overcoming the nervousness and fear of rejection from women. There are different ways to approach women and impress them. So shed your inhibitions, and get talking to the woman you've been secretly wishing to.
Marlene Alphonse
Last Updated: Dec 14, 2018
Approaching a woman in the real world is not that simple, but not a herculean task either. Though it may seem like an uphill task, approaching the woman you like and striking a conversation is actually quite easy.
How to Approach Beautiful Women
Approaching beautiful women may seem like a near-impossible task, but with a little planning and oodles of common sense, this can be an easy one.
Here are a few tips for talking to a woman:
  • Be confident of yourself when you approach a beautiful woman. Your body language must ooze with confidence (even if you feel hesitant). Eliminate all the doubts about your abilities and think of all the talents and skills you have. You will naturally feel boosted.
  • When you approach a woman, go ahead and make the first move. Don't wait longer or else you may become tensed and start losing confidence. It may also make you look like a creepy stalker, so it is always better to make the first move.
  • Start a conversation about common interests, hobbies or about her job. When you talk avoid staring at her blankly. It may send her the wrong signals and she may rather back out from the conversation.
  • NEVER be anxious to get her contact number or ask her out on the first meeting itself, it will make it appear as if you are desperate. So concentrate on getting to know her better and making a friendship first.
  • Don't be forceful of your intentions, it may help you win her trust. After you had a good conversation, don't linger too long but exit gracefully. Be genuine in complimenting her about how much you enjoyed the time spent with her. She may even give you her number without you asking for it.
How to Approach a Woman in Public
Approaching women in public can seem discouraging but you can do it successfully with the right moves. Here are some techniques to approach women
  • If you want to approach a woman in public, you must choose the appropriate time. Never make your move when she is busy talking to someone or if she is with a large group.
Two Couples Walking with Bicycles in the Park
  • Maintain eye contact or give her a smile when you look at her. If she responds with equal warmth, then you have hit the bull's eye, it means it's okay to start a conversation with her.
Smiling couple with bottles of water outdoors
  • Break the ice with a simple 'Hi' and smile warmly. If you are meeting a woman at the market or grocery store, check out what's in her basket and start a simple conversation like 'Looks like beef steak is on the menu tonight'.
  • You can also get your male chivalry to work by helping her carry the bags. It can win her heart.
How to Approach Women at a Party
Wedding guests clinking glasses
Use these tips to know the different ways to approach women in bars or in a club
  • When you approach a woman at a party or bar maintain eye contact till you reach her.
  • Compliment her on how good she looks.
  • You can also offer to buy her a drink.
  • Have a good sense of humor and keep her entertained by cracking occasional jokes or passing funny comments. But make sure that the jokes are neat and not the jokes that you share with your friends
  • Before you leave you can exchange phone numbers and fix up a private date.
How to Approach Women at the Gym
Given are a few tips on how to start a conversation with a woman while working out at the gym
  • Avoid approaching a woman who has just entered the gym or she has just climbed on the treadmill as she may be getting ready to workout.
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  • If you see a woman who is exercising at the cardio machine, you can take your place on the machine next to hers and work up a conversation.
  • Another great way to start a conversation with women at the gym is to offer advice or suggestions on their exercise routine. You can also offer them some tips about how to make their workout more effective.
  • Join a class like yoga, or dance. If you meet the woman of your dreams, you can strike a friendship.
How to Approach a Woman Online
Follow these simple suggestions to know how to approach a woman online.
  • Before you approach any woman online, make sure you read her profile and then send her an email.
  • Many women know what exactly they are looking for, which they include in their profile. Pick out something that she has said and tell her why you find it interesting.
  • Including your photo in your profile, will give her an idea of what type of a person you are.
Man web chatting on a tablet with a friend traveling
  • Know what to converse and in the right manner so that it doesn't seem as if you are just playing around. Once you have started a conversation and on a path of building a relationship, you can allow the talk to take an informal path.
  • Don't exaggerate about yourself and don't lie either as it may be a turn off in case she is interested in you.
Women hate shabbily dressed men with a hideous beard or weird-looking characters sporting hundreds of tattoos and weird piercing (you may think it is cool but for women it's just another reason to avoid you). Take some extra effort to dress smartly and look good.
The best aspect of approaching a woman is, to be just your natural self and not get panicky and nervous every time you come face to face with a good-looking woman. So be confident and go get her. Best of luck!