Making your wife happy is something that you swore to do when you asked her to be your wife. And it's something that sometimes gets sidelined in the fast paced life that you live. Sure, flowers and candy may be a quick fix solution if you missed a kid's dentist's appointment or had an argument about something, but there are some things that you need to do on a regular basis to make your wife happy. They're very common sense things and you're probably well aware of them already. Nevertheless, have a read and put the ones mentioned below to practice. Your wife will see the man she loves and be happier than ever. After all, in her happiness lies yours, doesn't it?
Be There: Love me when I least deserve it, because that is when I really need it. ~ Swedish Proverb
We've been hearing this ever since we had the sense to understand what it meant, and yet somehow, it does not sink into our brains. Worse, it does not sink into our hearts. Whether it is a relationship between an unmarried couple or a marital one, as much as we may try to avoid it, we do tend to take each other for granted. Consciously or unconsciously. So, take a long, hard look at your wife, and think about all the things that she does for you and your family. Think about how many times you have simply expected her to do something and then been terribly upset about it not having been done. If you can think of even more than one occasion when this has happened, you know exactly what you need to do. Stop taking her for granted and become more proactive about making sure that the essence of your relationship is preserved. Be there for her, be her shoulder to cry on, be her punching bag, be her object of affection, just as you promised you would when you took her to be your wife.
Show Compassion: Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow. ~ Swedish Proverb
It becomes very easy for us to slowly shift our focus from the other person in the relationship and channel all our energies on ourselves. While it is necessary to think about oneself, it should not get to an extent where no one else or nothing else matters. Especially if it's your wife. I'm in no way saying that you are a self absorbed person who cares little for his wife. All I'm saying is that the next time the dinner's not ready on the table when you get home because your wife is ill, don't ask her about it. Just throw something together yourself, and make her a nice warm soup to make her feel better. Remember, her life as an individual is as important as yours. And it's this individuality that makes a relationship work even better. So, ensure that she is as much her own self as she is your wife. Overlook the minor imperfections and you'll be able to magnify the numerous perfections that she possesses.
Be Responsible: Having someone wonder where you are when you don't come home at night is a very old human need. ~ Margaret Mead
No marriage is easy. But then again, it is only as difficult as the two people in it, make it. The easiest way to make your wife happy is to show her everyday that you're exactly the man she married! As the man of the house, as a husband and as a father you have responsibilities, not only to yourself, but also to the family that you so lovingly created. While we may all say that love is all we need, we know that love doesn't pay the bills, neither does only love get your kids an education and make them stand on their own feet. Be as good a father as you are a husband. Make sure you fulfill all your responsibilities towards the house, your wife and your kids. It may be as simple as picking up the kids from school to putting enough money aside for their college education and paying the bills on time to planning your finances well. It's this financial and emotional stability and confidence in yourself that will make her happy beyond anything.
Be Nice to Her Family: Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family. Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one. ~ Jane Howard
Keeping all the rude jokes about in-laws aside, everyone has to face one reality, harsh though they may think it is. When you marry a woman, you do, to some extent, marry her family. A family is something that everyone needs and should be grateful for. True, that sometimes relationships with the in-laws can get quite tricky to maintain, but the least you can do is be nice to her family. You don't have to get along like a house on fire, but you can do simple things like remembering her parents' birthdays and anniversary, wishing them and sending them gifts. Spend alternate Christmases and Thanksgivings with each other's families. This will not only make her happy, it will show her how much you love her. The family bond will only get stronger and that's something that no one is going to complain about, isn't it?
Keep the Romance Alive: For lack of an occasional expression of love, a relationship strong at the seams can wear thin in the middle. ~ Robert Brault
The key to making a woman happy, whether she's your wife, live-in partner, or a long term girlfriend, is the same old, tried and tested one. Keeping the romance alive. Some say that the romance fizzes out after marriage and that you don't have the emotional and physical stamina to maintain the same spark that you'll had when you were courting. Others say things change, people change and situations change, which in turn leads to the changes in the relationship. But why should that affect you and your wife? You're still the person she married, and she the one you married. The only way a relationship should change after marriage is to become a mature one, with a deep rooted understanding of one another, which comes only with constant practice. And for this constant practice, you need to be willing to go that extra mile to make her feel like much more than just your wife and the mother of your kids. She needs to feel like the woman you love! So spoil her, pamper her, send her flowers in the middle of nothing, take her out for romantic outings, make sweet love to her, show her how much you want her, and how much you care. There's nothing more a woman loves than seeing that her husband wants her after years of marriage just as much as he wanted her when they weren't. So show her exactly that!
Well, that was just my perspective on how you can make your wife happy. Every woman is a different entity and has a different set of expectations from her husband. All you have to do is know what they are and fulfill them, thus maintaining the harmonious blend of your two souls meant to be intertwined forever.