When you are meeting a girl for the first time, or the first date, there are many general subjects that you can speak on. All the men who’ve tried, and tried real hard to strike up a casual conversation with that one special person in their life, and failed miserably at it, understand that there are some great topics that’ll definitely get your girl interested!
Well, as terribly cliched as it may sound, the fact simply is that we men are made differently from all the lovely women in the world. So, while there’s nothing quite like grabbing a beer with your guy pals, and discussing the latest happenings in sports, or about the hottest rides in town, the same talks with someone of the opposite sex may, or in fact will most probably not get you the same enthusiastic response and cheer that you had hoped for.
This is something that often leaves men with little choice but to stick to the tried and tested, ‘How was your day?’, and a little prayer, hoping that she would pick up the conversation from there; but then again, it might save you once in a while, but it would take a lot more than a prayer, (and, if I may add, tons of courage!) to chat up your lady friend.
It is no secret that women and fashion are just made for each other. There’s nothing like talking about fashion with women. But be warned, get one fact wrong and you will be left red faced; talk too much about fashion, and you might just be shunned into her girly-girlfriend zone forever.
You could try talking about your favorite movies, and get to know hers. You could even talk about the Hollywood stars, or share the latest gossip with her. Get this right and you could well have her floored in no time.
As simple a topic as it may seem, the weather is often one of the easiest conversation starters there could be. Everyone relates to the topic, and there’s little chance of you going wrong with it. Again, you might want to switch to another topic soon enough, or you may end up sounding like the local weather reporter!
Books could just be the perfect catalyst for you to strike up a conversation with someone of the fairer sex. You don’t want to sound like a nerd, nor do you want to sound like a douche bag. If she is in fact an avid reader, you might just have got yourself a great friend.
There’s a very good reason why they say that ‘music calms the soul’. If you know about music, you could strike a conversation with her about the different genres of music, her favorite bands, her favorite song, etc. If you strike the right chord, you might just have someone for company, as you groove to your favorite track.
If you intend to ask the pretty lady out, you might want to talk to her about her favorite cuisines. Then, once you are into the conversation, you could always suggest a good food joint that she might like, and being the gentleman that you are, you could even offer to take her there. Food can very well find its way to a woman’s heart as well you know.
People, whether they accept it or not, irrespective of their race, gender, or nationality, love gossip; their subjects of interest may differ, but everyone is all ears for some juicy gossip! If you are able to gauge her interests, you could let her in on some insider information about it.
If you are able to strike the right balance between being a gossip monger, and a well informed guy, along with a generous amount of your charm in the mix, you should make her feel right at home talking to you.
So guys? Women, who might slam you with, ‘You just never seem to talk to me’, or the classic – ‘You’ve changed!’, without a second to think about the effort you take to muster up enough courage to try to engage her in a conversation, might regret their words if they know you can engage in the right conversation! While there might be a million things about girls that guys don’t know, you can still manage to talk to women, and even possibly achieve the unimaginable – hold your own in the conversation! Here are a few simple pointers that could help you on your way to having a good conversation with the ladies:
This is the most important part of any conversation you wish to have with your lady love. When you talk my friend, always be genuinely interested in what you say, for women have an incredible knack of sniffing out our fear! If you really mean what you say, it will definitely show in your talks. There’s absolutely no doubt in your commitment to talk to her, but that doesn’t mean that the same applies to what you actually talk about. Keep it simple and genuine.
Personalize the talks
If you are in fact looking to talk to her, it just makes sense to talk about her, or that are related to her. So, rather than talk about just something random, try to keep the talks more relevant and personal. It would help your cause a lot more if it shows from your talks that you actually notice her. You might want to keep in mind though, there is a thin line between an admirer, and a stalker, so tread carefully my friend.
Keep it short
Once you manage to strike up a conversation with her, you might want to make sure that you don’t get carried away with your talks. Remember, these are unchartered waters for you, so before you run out of steam while talking, let her take over. Keep in mind that this is supposed to be a conversation and not a dialog, so keep it short and simple.
I cannot emphasize on this enough, when the lady talks, listen to every word she says. Good listeners make for better talkers, so if you pay close attention to what she says, you would be able to have a good conversation with her, rather than just be a mute spectator. It would also show that you are genuine, and care enough to take her words seriously.
Mind your (body) language
Women like confident men. Remember, more than the actual words that you say, she would relate to the way you say it. You don’t want to stutter when you talk to her (although it might just get her in splits!). When you speak, do so with confidence. Your body language goes a long way to show your confidence. You don’t want your body language to remind her of the Hunchback of Notre-Dame, nor do you want to seem like the Rough Sergeant. Calm yourself and keep your body language relaxed but confident, which will in turn show in your talks as well.
Keep these little things in mind and it will be smooth sailing for you. Although there cannot be fixed topics for you to talk about, listed above were a few general topics which more often than not tend to work.
You can of course talk about anything and everything under the sun, but remember it isn’t what you know to talk about, instead it is what she wants to hear. So my fellow men do not despair, keep striving, and live by what J.R.R. Tolkien says, “Oft hope is born when all is forlorn”. Keep the faith my friends, and for all the women reading this, if a guy approaches you and messes up, please cut him some slack, we men are just not cut out to be great talkers! Cheers.