Awkward silences really are the worst part of dating. There will inevitably come a point at which you no longer have anything to say to your date. However, the manner in which you handle these awkward silences is completely within your control. Let’s take a look at the best ways to segue out of awkward silences in a graceful manner.
Ask a Question
When in doubt, ask a question. Shift the focus from yourself to your date. Ask him or her what his/her workday was like. Ask what he or she is planning on doing tomorrow. Ask anything to break the awkward silence and the conversation will take on new life.
Verbally Acknowledge the Awkward Silence
There is nothing wrong with pointing out the awkward silence. In fact, doing so might work to your advantage. Highlight the awkward silence in a lighthearted manner and your date won’t feel nearly as nervous. This humorous acknowledgement cuts through the tension, making you appear that much more relatable, confident and fun.
Relish the Silence
In some cases, it is best to let the silence continue without interrupting it. After all, you cannot talk forever, no matter how much you have in common with your date. Consider remaining quiet and waiting for something notable to arise that sparks the beginning of another conversation.
Make Your Move Amidst the Silence
The awkward silence might be the perfect opportunity to go in for a kiss. Do not say another word, move toward your date and he or she just might reciprocate your kiss. The awkward moment has the potential to serve as a catalyst for ‘rounding the bases so to speak, helping you develop that all-important sexual chemistry.
Create a List of Conversation Topics Prior to the Date
Take a couple minutes at home before leaving for your date to think about what you will talk about when the inevitable awkward silence arises. This way, when there is a lull in conversation, you will have something to talk about. Just make sure your conversation starter is something interesting and unique as opposed to yet another dialogue about the weather, sports or politics.
Use the Silence as a Transition
A lull in conversation means the date has become somewhat stale. This is the perfect opportunity to shift to another activity. Transition to the next part of your date, be it drinks, a movie, dinner or something else and your conversation is bound to regain its momentum.
Above all, do not Panic
The worst thing you can do amidst an awkward silence is panic and say or do something stupid. If you reveal your nervousness and say something out of the ordinary, your date might view you as unworthy of his or her love and attention. Find something – anything – to gracefully segue to, be it the dinner menu, your phone, a bathroom break, etc.
Relax and Smile
There is nothing wrong with being happy about the period of silence. Sit back, relax, smile and wait for your date to act. After all, you are not putting on a show. Do nothing and there is a good chance your date will also recognize the awkward silence and take action of his or her own to pivot out of the silence toward something more stimulating.
