In the world of dating, the first and second dates are considered similar to interviews. This is because just like an interview, both the man and the woman are put under scrutiny by each other. This is the reason why a lot of importance is given to the way we look and behave during the initial two dates. It is also the time when the couple tries to understand each other and see whether they are comfortable in each other's company. Most people consider the first two dates as the testing period to see whether there is a chance for the relationship to go further. Hence, the fact that the couple have decided to go on a third date is given a lot of importance, as it is considered that the couple is ready to take the relationship to the next level. However, before you go on a third date, it is extremely important to keep the following tips in your mind.
How to Ask a Girl for a Third Date
Before we get into the DOs and DON'Ts, it is important to know how to actually ask a girl out for a third date. As usually the responsibility of initiating a date comes on the guy, these tips will come in handy. The obvious way of getting a girl agree to come with you on a third date is by making sure that she enjoys your company on the first two dates. However, though you have to be at your best during the initial dates, remember that you have to be genuine too. This is because most women have a radar with which they can identify men who are genuine and are just acting it out. Also, just because you have gone for a date with her does not mean that you have to pester her with constant calls and messages. Rather, it would be better to keep the calls and messages to a certain limit. If you really feel that you enjoy her company, ask her directly. If she has enjoyed the first two dates, her reply will most likely be positive. However, you must remember that rejection is something that you have to go through while dating. So, if she says no to a third date, accept the fact gracefully.
Here, we will consider that your date has agreed to meet you for the third time. This can make you feel excited and nervous at the same time; excited because you are getting a chance to spend more time with her, and nervous mostly because of the third date rule. This rule says that if two people are ready to go on a third date, it means that they are ready to take the relationship to the next level, i.e., to become physically intimate. This rule can cause a lot of pressure on the couple, as they may not be actually ready to indulge in sex yet. Hence, here are some important things that one has to know about a third date.
- The first and the most important tip for a third date is to treat it like any other date. The extra pressure that you feel because of the rule mentioned above can actually spoil the entire fun. Rather, this the best time to know and understand the person in a better way. Though physical attraction is usually the basis of any relationship, sex should be the outcome of love and affection. Hence, if you and your date are not ready yet, it is best to wait and try to know each other better. Other than thinking of sex, it would be better to plan out a fun-filled evening. However, it is fine to flirt a little on this occasion. Nevertheless, make sure that your date does not feel uncomfortable due to your flirting techniques.
- By the time you go out for the third time, you will definitely be more comfortable with each other, so this is the time to make your conversation more intimate. You can share your dreams, aspirations, and fears with your date and encourage her to do the same. However, this does not mean that you talk about all your past issues, your ex-girlfriends, etc. The third date is too early for any such conversations. If you are comfortable talking to your date about your dreams and aspirations, it is likely that your relationship will flourish.
- To make the third date more interesting and enjoyable for both of you, think of some fun-filled things to do. It will be a good idea to plan some activities that you can enjoy together. If you have been attentive during the first two dates, then you would know the things that she likes to do. Apart from having a good time, you will also gain bonus points from the lady for being thoughtful. Also, as you have been showing your best habits during the first two dates, it will be a good idea to talk about some of your bad habits too. However, this does mean that you have to scare away your date. Rather, put it across in a funny way, and maybe even she too will come up with her negative traits.
You must understand that as every person has a different personality, not all dates end up in the same way. So, after the date, if you are not ready to take your relationship to the next level, convey this to your date. If your date is looking for a meaningful relationship, he/she will surely understand. You must remember that one has to connect on the intellectual and emotional levels first, thus giving the relationship time to develop naturally.