Most men don’t have a clue about what a woman thinks or expects. They find women to be emotional beings, driven by confusion or disorientation. Are they wired differently from men? Fortunately, for men, there are several ways to decipher women.
Why is it that some men have more success with women than others? Is it because they understand the psychology of women? Maybe, maybe not. It is imperative to realize, that women think differently than men when it comes to relationships. They are much more intuitive compared to men. They have a broad perspective on issues, which make them prone to becoming overwhelmed on occasions.
Men generally focus on one problem at a time or a limited number of problems. They are also able to separate themselves from problems and look at it from an external perspective. Let’s go through some focal points to consider, when in a relationship.
What Women Want
Attention Please!
A woman’s biological makeup to settle down. Even if a woman doesn’t say so, she is aware that her biological clock is always ticking. Women need to be treated in a way that make them feel special and important. You need to show her that she is the most important person in your world. Pay attention to little details. Express yourself by letting her know you are thinking about her, especially when you are apart, otherwise she will be emotionally distraught.
Are You Listening?
When she exclaims this, she instinctively knows you’re not. All women want is someone to hear them out, share their troubles, and empathize with them. If she does not get this, she will stop opening up to you altogether. You may notice her saying something at one time, and then find her doing the total opposite on some other occasion. You should understand why all this is happening and be supportive, or you will often pay for it in ways you may not even realize.
Surprise! Surprise!
Women love to be surprised occasionally. You need not buy expensive gifts; what matters is the sentiment behind the gift, not its cost. You can buy flowers or present her with a personalized greeting card. Be open to trying new things. All that matters to a woman is how you do it, and without her knowing about your surprise plans.
You’re Special
“Yeah yeah, you look fine” is not a compliment. Women like to be flattered about their beauty or the dress they are adorning. This makes them feel desirable and attractive. Women want to know if they are your first priority or not, they need reassurance from time to time. So text her randomly and remind her about a romantic dinner or a getaway you both shared.
The worst thing you can do is ogle at another woman when she is around. Never say the other woman is more beautiful, even if it is a fact. Try telling your woman how special she is; you don’t need to overdo it, but just remind her every once in a while about it.
Watch Your Ways
Women are more sensitive than their male counterparts. They never forget an incident related to infidelity. If you have hurt your woman in a similar way, and if she constantly uses a past scenario during arguments, clearly she hasn’t forgiven you. Women forgive but don’t forget and have a hard time handling such dishonest conduct – it makes them feel exploited by their selfish partner. Work it out and try to come to an agreement to never talk about it.
Men tend to forget fights, but women remember them for a long time. That’s why you can say something to your girlfriend, and a few days later she may ask you, “What did you actually mean when you said … This is because women are hypersensitive to your actions and words. Whenever you are wrong, admit it. And when you are right, keep mum. She will eventually notice her mistake.
What Day Is It?
How is it that men sharply remember dates such as mortgage payments and insurance renewals, but accidentally forget an anniversary or a birthday? I know you were not being rude or deliberately hurtful, but not remembering certain dates that laid the groundwork of your relationship, makes your partner feel disconnected or less important. These little things that you do, go a long way in showing your partner that you really care.
Chivalry Counts
All of us like to secure our spaces, and love to be treated with respect. In the same way, women dislike narcissists who misuse or ill-treat them. Women are always attracted to a man of refinement, someone who is kind, polite, and formal. Things like opening the door for her and offering her your seat still matter in modern times. Women always prefer well-groomed and mannered men. Women dislike men who brag and lie. They judge men by how they treat the women in their own family.
What Else Matters
Constant Praise and Gratitude
Like men, women too love to be showered with praises. This act will not only give her hope, but would also boost her self-esteem. It also conveys a feeling of being appreciated and loved. She does not expect you to read her mind to show her you care, but she does expect you to compliment her, sincerely and genuinely.
Making Time
Spending quality time is an important factor in a relationship, given one’s busy life. Ask what your woman would like to do, take a vacation together or try something new. Set aside a day to celebrate and rekindle your love, with just the two of you hanging around. If the woman you are dating, rightly fits the soulmate or future wife quotient, acknowledge your commitment to her. Let her know your future goals and plans that surround her.
Keeping Promises
Women don’t like to be promised something that is then broken repeatedly or not lived up to (due to forgetfulness, which is a very poor excuse). What men could do in this case is, diligently make note of the promises made and plan it accordingly, just as they plan things for the future of the family, since it of course matters a lot to his partner.
Acknowledging Commitment
If a man can foresee a future with a woman, he should make it known to his family/friends. He should also emphasize her importance in public and not treat her like a nobody, or disregard her obvious presence.
So avoid building walls around your emotions, instead talk it out. Open the doors of communication and express your feelings or thoughts, which will help you in avoiding conflicts. Be kind, considerate and loving, spend time with her and start thinking of ways to bond with her emotionally.
