Talking to your ex girlfriend shouldn't be a problem if you have no reason to not talk to her anymore. A relationship doesn't come with a guarantee to last forever and there is no one, absolutely no one, who can give you that guarantee. Situations and circumstances in our lives might compel us to take certain decisions, right or wrong that might lead to the end of a relationship. After you have broken up and it's now all over, you have to think about the good times. Do those good times count for something? If yes, there is no reason for both of you to stop talking.
Yes, there are a certain things you should keep in mind before approaching each other again but it's not a task as such, is it? If you were once lovers, there is absolutely no reason why you two can't be friends anymore. The article will tell you how to talk to your ex girlfriend again but whether to do it or not is after all, your call. All I would like to mention here that the end of a relationship, shouldn't be the end of a bond.
Tips to Talk to Your Ex Girlfriend Again
You're thinking of talking to someone who was once your companion and isn't so today. You have to understand that things are going to be different now and much more difficult than they ever were. Have you hurt her a lot? Did you do something that has made her walk away? If yes, then take some time out and think whether it'll be right to initiate talks again. If the breakup is recent, she's going to be vulnerable and are you sure you'll be able to handle that? If you're emotionally strong to take anything that comes your way, you can proceed.
Take It Slow
You need to take everything very slow this time. Don't directly land up at her doorstep and expect her to greet you with arms wide open. That is just not happening so don't try. Try and message her for a few days and see if she replies. Try sending her a mail if you want, telling her how you would really want to start talking to her again. See her reactions to all these actions and see how to go ahead from there. Don't call her to meet you immediately, as you may come across as desperate.
Let History Not Repeat Itself
This time, be extra careful while dealing with her as the smallest of wrong decisions can bring the roof down in no time. Her tolerance level is going to be a bit lower than what it was earlier, and this makes it even more important that you watch your step. Stay away from subjects or places that might remind her what made you guys walk different ways so as to reduce the chances of fights. Keep it very simple and just let the whole thing take its own course.
Say What You Mean
This time around, mean every single word you say and don't let her or yourself down. There are a lot of things you can talk about with your girlfriend but now that she's not your girlfriend, you need to be careful. Don't even remotely touch old issues, or issues that caused both of you to break up. Don't say anything that would remind her of the past and make both of you feel awkward and sad. You both are talking again because you'll like talking to each other, don't forget that.
I hope this article not only gave you some tips on how to talk to your ex girlfriend again, but also how important it is that you do. It takes a very long time for people to come together but hardly any time to separate, isn't it? Make sure you know what you're doing and that it's right. Hope this article also gave you the confidence to make things better for each other. Best of Luck!