Dating a shy girl can be likened to walking through a room full of laser detectors; you unwittingly step on a laser beam and the alarm will go off. So how do you tackle this sensitive situation? Simple. Hew to the following unassailable tips on dating a shy girl and make your first date an awesome kill.
The whole idea of present-day flirtation is based on sarcasm. So, if your woman, despite her shyness is jestfully making jeers at you, then it’s a sign that she is interested in you. Glad to have surveys.
First thing fellas, there’s abso-bloody-lutely no harm in dating a coy cat; vixens are not everybody’s thing and are potentially hazardous to pockets and eye sockets. But, having said that doesn’t make things any less intricate or buttery seamless.
Dating a shy girl is an equally arduous task that will require you to practice patience and show understanding and tolerance, without seeming deliberate (you don’t want your shy girl to think of you as a slobbering hyena that has put a veneer of friendliness to befriend his prey), we hope you get the innuendo here. Remember one thing fellas, there’s no rushing into things with the shy woman in question; there’s nothing more rewarding than peeling off a gift wrap carefully than ripping it like a kid with barely contained excitement.
Now make sure you peruse the following content on how to date a shy girl painstakingly.
Don’t put the shy girl in a shy spot
Meaning dear ones that your girl is timid because she is wired that way, so you can’t expect her to come up with a venue for the rendezvous. We know, you want to cast an impression of a man who is accommodating and thoughtful about his girl’s preferences, but this type of girl is likely to feel more intimidated if you keep asking her where she wants to go. So, hitch up your pants, take charge in your hands and pick a comfortable place for your date. Please don’t overthink till your neurons burst like firecrackers, just decide on a place and timing without humming and hawing over it.
Allow the turtle to come out of its shell
Your shy girl is like that turtle that won’t come out of its shell until it is sure about its surroundings. So, in order to make sure that your girl doesn’t retreat into her shell and stays willingly and comfortably, you will have to make her feel so. Get her to talk about her but don’t be pushy. As a shy girl myself, I can say that many of us are scared of such situations which are likely to awaken our inner spaz that is known to do more harm than any good. In such cases, as a man, you’ll need to understand her insecurities and play along. Our advice to you – be a little goofy (by this we aren’t telling you to blow your schnoz or eat lasagna with your bare hands), as in share your awkward anecdotes or tell her how you couldn’t figure the route to the venue and things like that. This will help to clear out the awkward clouds.
Drip-feed her with compliments
Yes, very important, this age-old trick holds value even for an outgoing woman but when a shy girl sits gauchely across you with a tight body language, this is a very important trick to exercise. Just tell her how pretty she looks in the dress she’s wearing or how beautifully her eye color is complementing your shirt color (yea, you can tread in there now), and see that body posture slackening. But make sure you don’t overwhelm her with poetic or over the top compliments, this will make the turtle retreat in the shell.
Don’t break the eggshells
Avoid swanking your legendary sense of humor, if it threatens to trickle then, make sure you caulk it. You have to tread gingerly with your shy woman – don’t get into bantering, teasing, mocking, and similar things of jovial nature with her on your first date. You never know when your jest becomes difficult for her to digest and she leaves you unimpressed (and we are sure you will be stressed). So, please, please pick your words cautiously; dealing with the shy woman is like walking on eggshells but you have got to act like a deft ninja if you aim for her heart. Nuff said.
Use your ears wholeheartedly
Well, this again goes for all kinds of women but with shy women, this is one cardinal advice to remember. You may have a lot of swashbuckling incidents to narrate (that make you look no less than 007) but unh-un, please keep that figment of imagination for a later date and concentrate on your shy woman’s talking on the first one. Broach up a topic that will make her want to talk about (like if she’s into ballet, make yourself a little dumb and ask questions that make you look genuinely interested). An aurally gifted man is simply alluring, ask any woman and she will attest to our observation.
It’s not the time for your male acrobats as yet
We get that. Men are men and a little touching gratification is okay unless it veers off in a different route completely. But with shy women, it’s no surprise that it is tricky. Once you get her talking and things look reasonably eased up, then you can hold her hand at the end of the date, and that too strategically (don’t just grab it as if it were the last piece of pizza). But if, your shy girl is a deep-rooted shy one who doesn’t give a whit about her ideas (you’ll come to know if the woman’s started to feel comfortable as the date will progress), then steer clear of making any kind of body contact. Well, maybe a quick handshake is okay, and no matter how hard you find to relinquish the grip of your hand from hers, you let go of her or else you’ll freak her out.
Fellas, we know there are quite a few cons about dating a shy woman as she’ll be less likely to give you any signals and will take a lot of time to thaw but there are pros to her as well. She will be more loyal than her other counterparts and just imagine being someone who is privy to a shy girl’s innermost thoughts! That in itself is so exhilarating and ego-boosting ;).