Talking to girls can be slightly tricky for guys. Keeping the perception and her imagination in mind, conversations have to make sense. So, guys start collecting some pointers which will help you to have a smooth conversation without any uneasy pause.
Girls talk a lot and who isn’t aware of that! We women admit that pretty easily as well. For all those who have seen women have discussions with each other for hours and hours, on no particular topic as such, know it to be true. However, for a guy to be able to sit down and make a sensible discussion with a girl, it takes a bit of effort.
Remember boys – girls are complex, perceptive, imaginative and talkative. If you screw up, all the women will know. Then you can bid farewell to the pickup lines and the flirting.
Want To Establish The Best Conversation? Start With Weather Topics
So one thing you need to know, girls are smarter than guys. So, it is important that you acknowledge this fact when trying to fathom how to talk to girls. Girls don’t ‘only’ gossip or talk about hair. So don’t you dare try that.
Girls talk about things like current affairs, global news, socio-economic status, etc. So, if you really want to establish a good conversation with them, the best way to start is with the weather, it normally works. Make sure that you know what you are talking about. Because, if you don’t, well, they’ll catch it, and will take that against you.
Topics that Girls Love to Speak About
Talk About Her Hobbies
If you want to break the ice with a girl, then this is the most reliable option you have. Quiz her on her favorite pastimes, interests and she will be more than happy to share her pursuits of interest with you. Girls are excited to hash out their spare-time activities. In fact, by knowing about this, you will be able to get a fair idea about her; and who knows, you might even discover sharing some mutual interests.
Her Dreams and Aspirations
Forget the yesteryear, these days women have become career-oriented and have several dreams and aspirations in life. Ask her what she wishes to accomplish in her life, and she’ll gladly let you in on that. Women just need someone to hear them out. Talk to her about herself by posing the right question and it is ample to keep the conversation going forward.
Once you and the girl have drawn a comfort zone, it is time to be forthright in your thoughts and expressions. Praise her on her dressing style or the fragrances she wears. She’d sure love to be complimented! Don’t sound over-the-top in your praises, just be honest and say it from your heart.
Any compliment that comes straight from the heart is easily sensed by girls. Dropping subtle hints or remarks about her choice of perfume or jewelry is enough to trigger a conservation with her. In fact, she would be willing to chat with you on this topic, elaborating on how she chooses her stuff. All you have to do after that is, keep listening and get to spend more time!
Her Emotional Affinities
What else but discussing relationships will do the trick here! Women get emotional and sensitive when it comes to discussing relations. If rightly handled, these topics can work really well for you.
Prod her about her views on live-in relationships, infidelity, etc., and the conversation will keep flowing. If you have developed a good rapport with her and if you think you’ll do a good job handling her emotional outbursts, then you can ask her about her previous relationships and how she dealt with them. If you sense even slight awkwardness from the girl’s end, be smart and change the topic pronto by having a light conversation! And of course, do apologize for your questions!
Talk About Movies and Music
It is another dependable conversation starter with a girl. Almost all girls keep tabs on the latest happenings in the entertainment arena, be it music, movies, television and the latest gossip on the celebrities. Some girls love to devour Hollywood gossip, while some might be avid Harry Potter fans. Figure that out before you end up conversing about something that will take you nowhere!
If she is a music lover, quiz her on her favorite bands, since when did her interest generate in music, etc. Although a cliched topic, it still works out with many girls.
Talk To Her Over The Phone
Yes, most women love phone conversations. I have seen most of my male friends having problems while talking to their girlfriends on the phone. Now, don’t ask why! Boys! Don’t you follow? Talking on the phone is the loophole. You don’t need to be as attentive as you would have to be in person. And you can say things that you truly want, without worrying about how you look while saying it.
So, you can be romantic, without worrying about looking like a sissy (which is a weird myth that men have about romance – not true!). You can talk about the moon, the night sky, the fact that you wish she were there, the fact that you want nothing more than just to hold her in your arms till the end of time and so on. Be poetic on the phone; girls love it.
Other Topics that Make for Great Conversation
Talk about the latest news.
A bit of gossip works. (don’t go overboard, or you’ll become the “good friend”.).
Talk about the new restaurant nearby, that you both need to visit soon..
Talk about her favorite book, author or magazine.
Ask if she likes sports. If yes, which?
Find out what is her ultimate fantasy.
Ask her what her childhood was like, and what her family is like.
Pet peeves and fears – talk about them. Let the girl describe them in full detail.
Ask if she believes in the paranormal.
Ask if she has been in love before.
Know what’s her take on love.
Find out what makes a perfect guy for her.
Ask if she likes to party. If yes, how much does she party?
Talk about the things (habits) she detests most in people.
So, you see, there is just so much. I have merely scraped the tip of the iceberg here. Go on and plunge into the depths of how to talk to people. Try it out. Girls are sensitive, if girls know that you are making an effort, they will appreciate it. Most of the girls find it cute as well. So, don’t worry, it ain’t an exam to pass, just something that a guy has to do, right?
Girls are complex, but very simple at the same time. Don’t try to fathom the working of our minds, you will not succeed. Just note that girls often pretend to be dumber than they are, just to make you feel more confident. So, appreciate that. Don’t try to use these tips to play around. Be sincere with your efforts, you will see how much luckier you will get that way. Get talking now!