Single and ready to mingle but you are just not meeting any girls, is it? Are you sure there are no girls around you or are you just mortified by the thought of introducing yourself to a girl? Oh man, you need some help. Who to help you better with it than a girl herself!
Dating is all about your skill and expertise to handle and balance a relationship while keeping your sanity. But, before you jump into the game, you need to start meeting girls to kick-start your dating life. Most men do not know how to introduce themselves to a girl. They either shy away in a corner and don’t approach girls at all or they say all the wrong things out of nervousness. Well, there are also those men who think they are absolute pros at introducing themselves to a girl. Those are the douche-bags. No matter which category you belong to, you need some help to make your love life more vibrant. They say that, “The first impression is the last impression”. If you haven’t been successful at introducing yourself in a way that it left a memorable impact on her, you lose your chance with the girl, that very moment. See how important is the art of an impressive introduction. So without much delay, read these tips on introducing yourself and polish your skills for a better success rate at dating. Even if you don’t get a date, at least you will end up making some great friends.
The When, Where and How of Meeting Girls Anywhere
Use your Mutual Friends
Yes, sometimes it is okay to use friends, especially when you think that a girl could be ‘the one’ and she is friends with your friend(s). I am not asking you to stalk her but check out your mutual friends on a social networking site. Then, ask them to invite her for a party, gig or event that you and your friends are going to. Ask your friend to invite her with her friends. There you will get an opportunity to talk to her.
Walk Over to Her
Have no mutual friends? Sweat not. If you just saw a girl at a party or a social event and would like to get to know her better, just walk over to her. Yes, don’t wait for someone to introduce you to her. Don’t delay else the jock might just butt in and fly away with your pretty lady. If you wait for longer than ten seconds of laying your eyes on a girl, you will keep thinking of the perfect line to introduce yourself to a girl and become more nervous. Instead, just walk up to her and introduce yourself. Let life take its natural course.
The Smile-Wave Test
If you are absolutely unsure of her reaction if you walked up to her, try the smile-wave test. Wait for her to look towards your direction and flash your cutest smile. If she smiles back, you have a clear road. If she smiles at you but turns away, wait for her to lock eyes with you again and now smile and wave. This time you definitely got a clear signal if she smiles too. If she doesn’t smile, try that on another girl you think likes you too. But, don’t do it often. You will be labeled as the desperate creep who smiles at every girl.
Catch her Off-guard
When you are about to approach a girl to introduce yourself to her, do it when she is alone or with two other friends. If you try to talk to her when she is standing with one other friend, she will ignore you even if you may appeal to her because she won’t leave her friend for you and you will lose an opportunity. But, if she is standing with two friends, they will keep each other company while you engage her in a conversation.
When you start talking to a girl, don’t try to show off how much money you got or that you think you are super-awesome. Don’t start off with regular questions and answers like, “What is your name?”, “What do you do?”, so on and so forth. They are boring to answer and I bet a hundred guys already asked them before you. Instead begin with, “Hey, I am (name)”, “I love this (place/event) because (insert reason)”, “What brings you here?” or “Do you wear that (piece of clothing/jewelry) often? Because it definitely caught my eye!”.
There is nothing more sexy than a man who is confident. Please don’t try to be someone you are not. A girl will appreciate that you are comfortable in your own skin. But, carry yourself well like you know your worth and are proud of being yourself. Don’t come across as arrogant though.
Don’t be Pushy
Every girl hates a person who tries to act like they are familiar with her too soon. Like within 5 minutes of meeting her, you act like you know her better than she knows herself. It is absolutely foolish. She will hate you for overestimating your intellectual capabilities and thinking so low of her as to be predictable. Don’t press her to meet you or for grabbing another drink. If she is interested, she will tell you. You can only drop a hint saying, ‘how you loved meeting her’.
One surefire way of impressing a girl is being courteous and polite. Treat her like a lady if you cannot treat her like a princess. When you meet her, a handshake and a great smile is always welcome. Steer clear off hugs or touching her beyond her palms. It should not be a lingering handshake. Greet her well with respect.
All girls love men who have a funny bone. If you don’t, then don’t try. But, if you do, crack that one joke that you know has people rolling down the aisles. It should not be one of the oft-repeated, oft-heard jokes. Humor definitely does help break the ice. It’s the bad jokes that are so lame.
Use Social Networking
Another pointer, make use of social media! There are several places to meet women. But, once you have met her, connect through social networking sites. It will help you stay in touch. Plus, it won’t be creepy to add her after you have met her. Later, you can randomly chat with her someday and see if she is interested in meeting you again.
Somebody created the 3-day rule for men to wait before they call or text since the last date or meeting. Seems like a good way to tease the woman and keep her guessing. But, just don’t wait too long that she gives up on you or forgets about you. She’ll just think you are a sissy or a player who found someone else. That’s a bad sign because she will move on. Instead, leave a humorous follow-up text the following week. At least you will make her laugh and she will like you for it. Please don’t wait for too long to make the next move. If she liked you, she will let you take her out. Remember, great girls wait for nobody.
Listen up men, please don’t forget to use some mint and perfume before you walk up to a girl to talk to her. The biggest turnoff is a bad odor. She will run away faster than you blink your eye. It would be an added advantage if you also know how to dress well. Also, don’t use any cheesy pickup lines. They don’t work. You won’t get a date, but you will get a drink in your face. And if she has a man around her who looks like her boyfriend, stay away. Don’t be rude or offensive in any way. Keep a check on your body language. You don’t want to get into trouble with her friends. Use this tips to meet women, you may just score yourself a date this day, next week!